T.H.O.T (n.) – that hoe out there. A woman who enjoys sexual variety just as much as a man yet is stigmatized on a higher scale.
Player (n.) – a person who enjoys games. A man who is constantly lauded by society for his numerous female conquests.
John takes Eileen on a date and during conversation asks ” So, how many men have you slept with?” Eileen is nervous to be honest because she’s really into John and knows she has to answer carefully. She replies ” 3″ and reciprocates John’s question. ” I have had 10 partners” says John. The date ends and as they part ways, John is contemplating ways to avoid Eileen in the future because she simply has too many “miles.”
Miles (n.) – a ridiculous and discriminatory piece of urban slang to describe the number of times × the amount of men a woman has fornicated with.
John and Eileen are characters of course but this is a daily and unfair burden that women across the United States and in many societies must carry. Society tells her that she is not allowed to be a sexual creature and she has to carry herself conservatively in the way that she expresses, discusses and engages in an activity that is meant for all adults to partake in. Some will say we need to abstain to make sure we preserve our bodies to find ourselves a husband. Is my future husband preserving himself for me as well? Meanwhile, Tommy, Kevin, Daquan and all the other people who have a penis between their legs get to go around and sleep with whomever they want with no repercussions. If we want to get scientific, we are genetically predisposed at a minimum to eat, sleep and procreate.
Why are men and some women given the platform to label us as whores, sluts and other vile adjectives while our male counterparts do the EXACT thing?! ” Bruh, you the man!” “You shouldn’t punish my son for 20 minutes of fun…” ” He needs to go out there and sow his royal oats.” Well if Marge can’t do it, then it should be unacceptable for Caleb too. How come we discount all the great qualities Tina brings to the table such as her education, good credit and family values because she is swimming in double digits from past pleasure?
Often, women are forced to lie about the partners they’ve had or the sexual activities they enjoy because they know that most people are going to judge them instead of them being open and honest about what they really are. I have heard the centuries-old argument that women have much more to lose and they can get pregnant. Okay but if we’re using condoms and birth-control then it really shouldn’t matter. If that doesn’t work for you, just abstain until you find the person that works for you.
Better yet, why are you asking me about my partner count anyways? The vagina doesn’t leave mile markers and I promise you most can not tell the difference between 1 and 100… Loosen up, be responsible and live life.
A woman who likes and talks about sex.
Why does the sexual double standard persist? What is your definition of a player? Should women be as sexually liberal as men?
Let me know what you think!